When should you get your kid a cell phone? It’s got to be one of the toughest questions for parents these days–a question that we personally never really had to deal with, from either the kid perspective or the parent perspective. Cellphones didn’t exist and were a kind of sci-fi dream when I went through my childhood, and hadn’t become ubiquitous until our kids were well into their teenage years. And even then, cellphones were still primarily phones, without all of the games and social media apps and internet access functionality that are a hallmark of modern cellphones.
The timing of the cellphone decision is a matter of lively debate among parents, children, and pediatricians and child psychologists. Parents might like the idea of being able to be in touch with their child at all times, and especially in case of an emergency–but also will be leery that the cellphone brings with it social media and its potentially all-consuming grip on young minds and personalities. Many kids will want a cellphone because “all of my friends have one,” and because they want to be able to text and see what pictures their friends are posting. And pediatricians question the impact of cellphones on child health and obesity–with kids staring at their cellphones, indoors, when they should be outside running, jumping, and playing–while child psychologists wonder about when kids are really mature enough to deal with potential cyberbullying, social peer pressures, sexual predators, and the myriad other risks lurking in the social media universe.
A small town in Ireland–Greystones, in County Wicklow–took an interesting approach to this issue: the parents got together and agreed that they wouldn’t let their children have cellphones until they reach secondary school, which in that area happens around age 12. The parents hope that by agreeing among themselves to hold off on cellphones until that point they will avoid the “everyone else has one” argument by their children.
It will be interesting to see whether this approach is adopted by other towns–and, if so, what kind of impact it has on childhood obesity and mental health. It also poses an interesting issue for parents, who presumably don’t want to be caught by their kids constantly staring at their cellphones rather than engaging in conversation or outdoor activities with the rest of the family. Who knows? Perhaps childhood cell phone bans could have a positive ripple effect on the entire family. I think we’d all be better off, mentally and physically, if we spent more time away from the cellphone screen.