NPR has been running a series on “Mom and Dad’s record collection,” where celebrities and average folks talk about a record their parents had that was associated with a particular memory or otherwise had a special meaning.
In the Webner household of my youth, Mom and Dad had an eclectic album collection — including some 78 rpm records — that featured classical pieces, swing, big beat, and the OSU marching band. They didn’t often listen to music, but when they did, one song stood out ahead of the rest: Frank Sinatra’s recording of My Way.
My father was by nature a quiet person, but give him a drink or two and My Way would be taken from its place of honor on the record rack and played like it was the national anthem. If my Uncle Tony were in town, he and Dad were likely to stand up, spread their arms wide, and belt out the song with great gusto. The lyrics, about a dying man who reflects on his life and the blows he’s taken but is proud that he did things his way, obviously spoke to something deep within them. To others, the song might seem like a maudlin and over-the-top bit of self-congratulation by a stubborn egotist.
What was it about My Way that has such resonance for a car dealer and a stockbroker? How many shopkeepers, pharmacists, accountants and other members of the corporate culture of the ’60s and ’70s similarly identified with the character in that song?
I think the attraction of the song was aspirational. These were men who had their jobs and did their jobs, providing for their families and, in the process, undoubtedly making countless compromises. They might go out for a drink after work, but for the most part they played their well-defined role in the world. They identified with the rugged individualist in the song who insisted on doing what he pleased, even if their lives didn’t necessarily permit them to be that person. When the song was played, it was a chance for them to let that tamped down inner individualist roar, in a way he never could in real life.