Last night Kish and I attended the wedding of a friend’s daughter. It was a lovely ceremony. We heard, once again, the familiar words of St. Paul’s epistle about love and the importance of selfless commitment in loving human relationships.
Those of us in the audience who are happily married reflected, once again, on how fortunate we are to have found someone with whom we can share our lives. Marriage allows us to make the ultimate pledge to our loved one and to go forward as partners. There is no doubt that successful marriages enrich the lives of both spouses. They say that two heads are better than one, and it’s true . . . but then, for the most part, two people are better than one. It’s wonderful to have that special lover, partner, and friend that you can confide in and consult with, who will gently coach you on how to smooth your rough edges, who will work and sacrifice to make your collective lives better, and who will always have your back. You can’t help but feel a certain blessed, happy pride that you are part of such a relationship.
When you get married, you don’t necessarily think about the legal aspects of the decision, but they nevertheless are part of the bedrock on which marriages are built. Marriage is a legal commitment that, once undertaken, can only be undone by another legal action. The legal aspect gives marriage a formality that distinguishes it from more casual relationships. And the other legal benefits and rights that go with marriage — be they tax breaks, insurance advantages, pension preferences, or one of the many other consequences built into federal and state law, 401(k) plans, and the other welter of documents and provisions that govern modern life — make working together as a team much, much easier.
I’m a big fan of marriage, and I think it should be encouraged whenever couples have decided, after mature reflection, that they have found that special person. That’s why I support same-sex marriage. Marriage has made my life immeasurably better. Why shouldn’t every couple, regardless of their sexual orientation, have the same opportunity for lifelong happiness?